A few days ago I was talking to K who said that life had recently forced him into making some decisions that were contrary with his core beliefs and values. I know the feeling; You do something stupid or easy or thoughtless, and then suddenly the fallout provokes behaviours You'd never have expected of Yourself, and You're disgusted and disappointed but to unwind it all feels like it would make it even worse. He seemed a little crushed, so I, positive re-contrualist that I am, said "Well, it's good to stretch Your horizons. You know, exit Your comfort zone. Do something new. Sky dive, whatnot."

But I guess this sort of situation is not what all those self-help gurus mean.